That old story about the tortoise and the hare is borne out in your pairing. You are the stolid tortoise, steadfastly working away on your ambitions, while your partner is the nervous hare, always hopping from one thing to another. Not only is that lack of focus annoying, it's distracting.
You're not able to get as much done with your mate around, and it bothers you that your sweetie seems to hold you back from reaching your potential, rather than bringing out the best in you. It always seems like you have to be the parent, the one to to take care of business while your partner flits around socializing and having fun. You like the control, but the responsibility is a drag. You keep doing it, however, because if you don't, it doesn't get done.It's time to let loose of the reins of responsibility. Your partner's never going to step up to the plate if you don't start backing off a little. Start with small things -- where are you going to go to dinner? What's the vacation spot for this year? Then move up to more major decisions. It may be a slow process, but it won't move forward at all if you don't start the ball rolling.