Why have you assigned yourself the lowest rung on the ladder? While it's true that your lover is somewhat intimidating, all passion and fire and aggression, you're a star in your own right, albeit a somewhat less showy one. You humbly hope that others will see your worth, but you hide your own light.
Don't play the part of a shrinking violet, afraid to ask for (or even demand!) what you want. Your mate will never respect quiet submission. Instead, stand up to your sweetie. Speak your mind. You have a right to an equal say in your lives together, even though you feel somewhat timid when faced with your mate's firm convictions and aggressive ways of getting things done.Being this upfront may make you uncomfortable for a time. But work through this discomfort, for it is only temporary. In the meantime, your partner will gradually grow to respect you more, appreciate your connection more fully. Right now you are viewed as something of a pushover. Wouldn't you rather be a peer and an equal? Stand up and take your due. There's no reason to feel like second best for one moment longer.