You've always been the kind of lover your mates have bragged about to their moms -- reliable, sensible, stable, loyal. But something about your current amour has turned your usual style upside down. You feel burdened by what you view as your obligation to your mate.
You also carry guilt from bad choices you've made in the past, and that guilt carries over into your current relationship, causing you to take on more responsibility and commitment than you really feel ready for.But why are you blaming your mate for your own bad choices? Obligations aren't placed upon you. You take them on yourself. If you don't want to be burdened, just learn how to say 'no.' Seek the advice of friends, who can help you clarify what you want and what you should reject. Then pick and choose what you want to say yes or no to. Give in to your lover on some matters, but insist on your own way in others. It's not comfortable for you, speaking your mind. It may bring on a difficult transitional period, but at the end of it your lover will know -- and adore -- the real you.