A fly on the wall of your love relationship would have no idea why either of you continue on. You view your lover as lazy, arrogant and self-indulgent; your lover looks at you as a negative ol' kill-joy. Neither of you are shy about sharing those viewpoints, either.
Each of you tries to play the part of the stern adult, chastising the wayward child. It's fun to feel so above it all, but you're both so busy criticizing each other that you can't see your own role in your problems. You complain and you kvetch, but nothing gets solved. Aren't you sick of being stuck in the same old rut?If so, you're going to have to make some changes. If you keep banging on the same doors, you're going to get the same answer. Try shaking things up instead. Change your attitudes and try taking some direction from your mate. Loosen up. Laugh. Put work off and just have fun. You may be surprised at how much you enjoy yourself -- and how that enjoyment translates into a sweeter, more harmonious connection between you and your mate. You have the power to get things started -- don't let foolish pride stand in your way.