Control is at the heart of your relationship drama. Each of you wants to hold the whip, be the one to set the agenda for your pairing. But you both struggle against what you view as the threat emanating from each other.
You wish to be the boss, the parent, demanding and receiving unquestioning obedience from a partner who's secondary to you in every way. Only thing is, you didn't choose a partner comfortable in the sidekick role. You may think you're in control, but it's more likely that your partner's letting you believe what you like in order to maneuver you into some direction or another. In short, you're probably being manipulated, whether you know it or not.But think of the good side. One of the reasons your pairing is such a struggle is that you're such a strong, even match. Neither of you will let the other rule, and that's a good thing. The challenge keeps things exciting, and you know you're with someone you can respect, an equal who'll be able to stand up to you in the long haul. And in the long run that's more important to you than ease and contentment.