Each of you thinks the other is at fault for your problems; each of you is eager to cast blame but slow to accept any. And you're both right. Your mate really does hold you to impossible standards and nitpick.
You, on the other hand, hold a grudge forever and punish your lover for what you view as infractions. The pair of you are eternally at war, whether it's on the surface or underneath. You often act against your best interest because you are so invested in sticking it to your mate -- and what's the point of that? In addition, you jealously insist that your lover's time, all of it, belongs to you. You badmouth your lover's friends and attempt to manipulate your lover into dumping them.So how to thaw the chill between you? The answer will make you quite uncomfortable, because you're going to have to give up a bit of control. Stop demanding that your mate be accountable only to you -- give your lover some free time and space to see other friends. Don't hold on to anger; instead, let go with a more loving heart. None of this comes naturally to you, but you must begin if you are to endure.