Naughty, naughty -- your mother wouldn't be very proud of your behavior. Not only can you be a little cold and contemptuous towards the one who covets your heart, but you may have slipped into an almost abusive behavior pattern. Your lover has a tendency to risk all for love, to participate in unnecessary drama in order to satisfy an unrealistic need for it (particularly the romantic kind).
You, on the other hand, have priorities -- and at the very top of your list are your own needs and desires. So your driving force has met your lover's yielding compromise, with predictable results. Your lover gets very little and gives all. This kind of imbalance can not last for long.You do have soft and tender feelings for your mate -- so do not withhold them. Let them shine out. You have found a place of trust and ease, yet you will not relax into it. Do so. Stop trying to control your lover, to be the master of all details. Let your sweetie make some of the decisions. The result will be a splendid flow of affection between you; love between equals, not a truce between enemies.