Being with your mate feels uncomfortably like the meeting of polar opposites. You are all cool control, your mate impulsive fluidity. You are almost calculating in your ability to formulate a plan and go after what you want, step by step.
Your mate is apt to make stabs at goals, losing patience quickly when rewards are slow to come. It is likely that you have a difficult understanding each other. You contemptuously watch your mate flailing and take secret pleasure in having it more together. Your sweetie takes delight in defying you, or worse, swats away your attempts at control like someone brushing away a fly.Your pairing will never work unless the two of you can amp up the respect level. Why are you together, anyway? There were things that drew you to each other, qualities you admired in your mate before a tidal flood of familiarity swept in and ate away at your affection. Try spending more downtime together, doing things you both enjoy. Talk and listen, kiss and cuddle. If you can tap in to the sweet side of your pairing, the ill feelings between you will be blown away by a breath of fresh air.