The two of you are trapped on the hamster wheel of bad love, and it feels like you can't escape. The same pattern plays itself out over and over again. Your mate does something to irritate you or challenge your authority, and you withdraw and withhold your loving.
This makes your lover do something even more drastic in an attempt to get your attention. You withhold still further. Sound familiar? The two of you seem to never move beyond this kind of childish, provocative game-playing. it feels as though you're playing a game of chess with a very tricky opponent, as if you cannot let go and be comfortable and easy.On the other hand, the emotional intensity of your pairing is exquisitely agonizing. Things are always on with a vengeance, or else they're terribly awry. You don't like the downs, but the ups are glorious enough to keep you going, addicted to the sheer high of living life with your sweetie. Your transparent attempts to control the other could be viewed as high comedy rather than base treachery -- why not try to cultivate an attitude of tolerance? The chill between you and your partner will evaporate once the pressure's off.