You've been boxed into a corner and you don't see a way out. Your mate likely has something on you -- you're still being punished for a past transgression of some type, or they have information that can be damaging to your relationship with another. Instead of letting go of that anger, that power, your mate is exploiting it to the limit.
You're usually the punishing partner in relationships, but you're getting a dose of your own medicine and you don't like it one bit. Your lover may be using that hold over you to control your time or ordain your actions, and though you chafe at the bit you submit nonetheless.Why are you, the powerful and important one, laid so low by this significant other? The answer lies in your past. Does this relationship hold echoes of others? Did you have a parent who treated you in this fashion? Think about it: In enacting your current dramas, are you really acting out old issues from your past? Once you see your motivation clearly, finding a way out begins to seem more plausible. Mutual respect is possible -- but you're going to have to learn to stand up for yourself.