You're lost in the fog, and you can't see clearly. Something -- some kind of drama around your relationship? -- is preventing you from seeing things as they really are.
Are you listening to your mate when you discuss where this relationship is headed? Or are you just in love with love, addicted to the highs and lows and unwilling to face reality? You have an idealized picture of your lover, and of your relationship. It is likely you met under charged circumstances, and you may feel like the two of you triumphed over the odds. And you did, sorta. It's just that the relationship you managed to capture is gauzy, insubstantial, unreliable.The only cure for all this uncertainty is a good, strong dose of reality. Learn to listen to what your lover is telling you, particularly when you're discussing the direction your relationship is headed. Don't think your mate's saying one things and meaning another -- that's just your own wishful thinking. Your mate is being honest about the challenges you face and the limitations of your pairing. Don't ignore what you're hearing just because you wish it were different; therein lies the path to heartbreak.