First, the bad news. You're probably feeling extremely stifled by your current pairing. You tend to lack confidence in your identify and abilities, and unfortunately, you've chosen a partner who's so dynamic and intense that you feel you can't possibly measure up.
You're made to feel that you're underperforming, that you're not living up to your potential. Your partner seems to watch your every mood, criticizing all the while. Things aren't done properly if they're not done to the standards of your mate, and you feel like you can't do anything right.But you must resist you tendency to escape into a dream world, whiling away the days while you avoid responsibilities. Though your mate is a bit blunt when expressing your shortcomings, there's actually much to be said for the point of view you're trying to ignore. You could stand to be a little more attentive to your work and to your mate's needs. There's room for compromise between your varying viewpoints -- see that you find that middle ground. It's uncomfortable for you to confront your problems so nakedly, but you're going to have to find a way if this partnership is to endure.