Your lover sets your alarm bells ringing, in more ways than one. You've gone and done it again, haven't you? You chose a lover who keeps you interested, but 'interested' doesn't mean 'happy.' Your mate blows hot and cold.
You don't like it, but you'll spend forever trying to understand it. Your natural loosey-goosey flexibility annoys your partner, who likes limitations and roles and certainty. So you're slammed for anything that doesn't conform to your lover's expectations, and petted and rewarded when you go along. The result is a henpecked you, too busy trying to live up to impossible standards rather than enjoying life with your other.You feel as if you're addicted to the tumult of your pairing, but the comfort of staying in unhealthy patterns is trumped by the awful effect it has on your psyche. You must break the cycle. If you're determined to stay where you are, resolve to treat yourself with the respect you're worthy of, and demand that respect from others. Ensure that you get equal time; ask for what you want. Your lover will value you more highly -- but most importantly, you'll be happier with yourself.