Are you willing to pay the price for this one? Because this is one love relationship that's neither free nor easy. Let's start by sweating the small stuff, shall we?
It feels like you and your lover don't speak the same language. You have difficulty understanding each other's issues and respecting each other's limits. Worse, both of you allow your love of variety and novelty to get the better of you. The relationship feels fleeting and unstable, as if either of you could choose to flit off with another at almost any given moment. Which one of you has your foot out the door this time? Not very restful on either side, is it?If you're going to stay where you are, you're going to have to make some concessions and compromises. First of all, tame your rampaging libido. Flirting with others isn't going to get you what you want from your current amour, even if it is fun to tweak your lover's insecurities. Second, you're going to have to figure out a way to live with the occasional instability. This relationship may never settle into contentment. But you were never one for calm anyway. Accept the relationship with flaws intact and you're well-placed for the future.