In the mornin', in the evenin', ain't you got fun? Yes indeedy you do, but it's not pushing you to meet your goals one little bit. You and your lover have lots in common -- friends, interests, a great sense of humor.
And thus you have a great time together. It's all fun and games. On the other hand, it's all fun and games. Together you're more likely to just hang out than get anything done. The laundry languishes, the dishes remain undone, and more importantly, work stalls on a much higher level. Your career is stagnant, and when's the last time you did anything creative?In a very real way, you and your lover are such a potent pairing that you allow yourself to just get lazy and enjoy yourself. The solution is to team up. Find some projects you can tackle together. Are there classes you can take? New interests you can immerse yourself in? Surely you have ambitions in common. Allow your stimulating lover to stoke your fires in another realm of your life besides the physical. Together the two of you can accomplish much, and have a great time doing it.