Do you smell smoke? Because you and your lover are a potent -- some would say dangerous -- combination. At best you are partners in crime, both blessed with a verve and drive that propels you through life with the force of a bullet shot out of a gun.
At worst, you're deadly enemies. You irritate each other, egg each other on to new heights of ego and unreason. Both of you perform for each other -- I'm the most powerful! No, me! There is constant friction between you as both of you fight for the upper hand. Even something as simple as choosing what to eat for dinner or what movie to see becomes a battle. Your friends dread being around the pair of you at times because you're so warlike. At worst, one or both of you can be abusive. The answer lies in dialing down your competitive streak. Don't bait your lover, or rise to bait. Consciously try to calm down and consider your words and actions. Don't react impulsively. Instead, slow down and think carefully about your ultimate goals, not just your emotions at a particular moment.