Nervous intensity is at the center of your relationship, and it's an awfully shaky ground to build upon: emotional quicksand instead of solid, dependable rock. You often find yourself furious with your lover, who blurts out the worst things at the most inopportune moments (and like as not in front of the worst people -- best to keep this lover away from your boss!). Too often have you been wounded with the unvarnished truth.
Now, tragically, you're apt to discount what your lover says instead of taking helpful hints on board. The smallest issues seem to erupt into big arguments; the two of you misunderstand each other's intentions and actions. But it's not all bad news. The reason your relationship has lasted this long is because you can bring out the best in each other. The competitiveness simmering under the surface keeps things interesting, sparkling. There's an energy between you that can't be denied. Try approaching each situation with calm. Talk slowly. Listen more. If a little cool breeze can blow into your relationship, it might make it easier to relax rather than reacting impulsively.