There's something unhealthy about this relationship, and you're just beginning to realize it. What are the unsavory acts or emotions your lover draws from you? Your worst side is emphasized in your sweetie's presence.
You become more aggressive, temperamental, egotistical and impatient when you are together, while your lover's tendency towards laziness and excess seems to swell when you're around. It's likely that the two of you have accumulated debt together (perhaps credit card debt, gained from your tendency to spend too much on fripperies), and that you have difficulty keeping to a budget. Even worse, your sharply dissonant views on matters like beliefs, ethics, politics and education makes it difficult for you to find common ground. Nonetheless, there is opportunity here for a fine connection. You share a certain drive and passion, and are both equally openhearted and loving. If you can find a way to compromise, a way to look past your differences and create new habits that serve you both rather than creating problems, this could be a very solid and sweet relationship indeed.