When you first met your lover you were attracted to the sweet adaptability you found. Here was a lover who would let you steer the ship, deciding where you went and with whom. Here was someone who would listen to your stories, sympathize with your troubles, support your dreams.
You love all that, but somehow it's not enough. Your partner's loving and sympathetic enough, but awfully insubstantial. You feel like you can't trust your sweetie to always be there for you -- your lover means well but finds it difficult to conform to plans, keep agreements, maintain boundaries. You feel like you need something more solid and stable.It is true you will face many challenges in this relationship, but if your love is strong enough you can conquer your difficulties. You must tackle your issues squarely. Learn the art of compromise. If your lover can bend to meet you halfway, bend likewise. Decide how you will keep your patterns from repeating. It will take discipline on both your parts, but with some time and practice these new patterns will come more naturally.