Nag, nag, nag. You can hardly blame your lover for turning off -- your needle's stuck in a groove, and you're running over the same script once again. Was it by design that you fell into being the bad-guy parent, the scolding teacher?
Or did it just somehow happen, with you viewing your restless, hard-to-pin-down lover as a great big blank canvas for you to paint on? You bagged yourself a remarkable sweetie, and a good match for you. You enjoy the crackling energy between you -- you spar with words and never get tired of being in each other's company.Yet your desire to mold your lover into someone else causes friction. And when your lover is challenged, there is a tendency to blurt out the wrong thing at the wrong moment. Then you are wounded and hold a grudge. Can't you see that the whole cycle starts with you? If you'd relax a bit, live and let live, things would cool down. Your lover wouldn't need to rebel if you weren't always putting on the screws. Channel the generous, kind side of your nature and give your lover a break, willya?