You and your lover egg each other on, and not in a good way. Apart you are able to focus your energies on a goal and reach it. Together you are apt to indulge yourself in all sorts of unhealthy ways.
You may have run up large credit card bills, or be in some other sort of debt. You act too quickly, you move without thinking, you leap before you look. Other people may have been coming to you to express concern -- your life isn't moving in a positive direction, and though the fault isn't exactly all your lover's, your relationship certainly hasn't been bringing out the best in you. The answer lies in setting up ground rules. Sit down and talk about where you are and where you want to go. What are your career goals? Where do you see yourselves in five years? In ten? Articulate your dreams, and make concrete plans that will bring them to fruition. Discipline and restraint isn't easy, it's true, but this is the only way to combat your drift. If you let things go on as they are, you'll ultimately regret ignoring your moment of clarity.