Everybody likes your lover. Your parents. Your friends.
Your coworkers. Everything seems so right: You always have a great time whenever you're together. In fact, things go so smoothly between you that you've been able to ignore the gaps thus far. But you're waking up. The fact is that on the surface you're congenial and gracious, but underneath there are some serious disparities in your goals and values. You're more attuned to the intellectual side of things, politics and ideas and art, while your lover's the more sensual hedonist type. Think about it. Don't you make conversation more often than your lover, talking about humdrum matters to mask the realization that you don't have an awful lot in common?Developing common interests is key to the survival of your relationship. Take up a hobby together. Dance lessons? A foreign language? A sport? Whatever it is, make sure it's something that'll consume you both.